Parent-daughter bonding

We had a seminar yesterday at Bianca's school and it was a blast....almost all of us parents are having a hard time on how to discipline our grade 5 daughters and the seminar was really what we needed...when we arrived i was surprised that Bianca was one of the usherettes :)

Before starting the seminar...we were asked to write everything that would cause distractions and anything that would make us feel uneasy during the seminar...then we were asked to throw it at the trash bin...and just for the moment give our time and make the most out of the seminar...which really worked :)

Both of us attended the seminar...see Bianca how much we love you

We are having a hard time communicating with our kids so instead of using "You" messages we should use the "I" messages....

example: Bianca please do your assignment.

we should use: Bianca can I see your assignment notebook...

It can really work because the kids would feel that we are involved in the tasks.

Empathy, which literally translates as 'in feeling', is the capability to share and understand another's emotions and feelings. It is often characterized as the ability to "put oneself into another's shoes".

The kids sang for us after the seminar...

Thank you Ms. Amurao for giving this kind of seminar...we hope we can apply everything we learned. Kudos Ma'am!

Surprise party for Kenneth

We were not supposed to celebrate it this way...sef wanted it very simple...but when we saw his grades...94,93,91,90,89, his lowest 81 sibika (if it was 85 he would be among the top students) we were surprised...so we gave him a surprise party...booked his party same day at 7:30am...good that there was still a slot available...we just invited thru text messages ...we just told kenneth that we are going to jollibee for merienda and he can also play...when we arrived at jollibee he was surprised to his cousins...and told me..."mommy pati classmate ko nandito..." then i pulled him and asked him to read the banner "happy birthday kenneth darren" he was amused and i told him surprise! he was so happy and he kissed me. :)! he was so happy and he kissed me :)

miss you papa...

It's been awhile since my last blog...

maybe i'm not yet that fine but i am coping...

it's so hard to loose a father...

so to all sons and daughters out there who are not in good terms with their parents please make the first move before it's too late...

love your parents for without them you would not be where you are now...

june 18, 2009

I hope you are in a better and safer place papa...

miss you!

kenneth & athena

whay happens in heaven....

WHAT HAPPENS IN HEAVEN

This is one of the nicest e-mails I have seen and is so true:

I dreamt that I went to Heaven and an angel was showing me around. We walked side-by-side inside a large workroom filled with angels. My angel guide stopped in front of the first section and said, ' This is the Receiving Section.

Here, all petitions to God said in prayer are received. ' I looked around in this area, and it was terribly busy with so many angels sorting out petitions written on voluminous paper sheets and scraps from people all over the world.Then we moved on down a long corridor until we reached the second section.The angel then said to me,

"This is the Packaging and Delivery Section.

Here, the graces and blessings the people asked for are processed and delivered to the living persons who asked for them." I noticed again how busy it was there. There were many angels working hard at that station, since so many blessings had been requested and were being packaged for delivery to Earth.

Finally at the farthest end of the long corridor we stopped at the door of a very small station. To my great surprise, only one angel was seated there, idly doing nothing.

"This is the Acknowledgment Section,

my angel friend quietly admitted to me. He seemed embarrassed. " How is it that there is no work going on here? ' I asked."So sad," the angel sighed. "After people receive the blessings that they asked for, very few send back acknowledgments""How does one acknowledge God's blessings? " I asked."Simple," the angel answered.

Just say, "Thank you, Lord. ""What blessings should they acknowledge? " I asked.

"If you have food in the refrigerator, clothes on your back, a roof overhead and a place to sleep you are richer than 75% of this world. If you have money in the bank, in your wallet, and spare change in a dish, you are among the top 8% of the world 's wealthy. ""And if you get this on your own computer, you are part of the 1% in the world who has that opportunity. ""If you woke up this morning with more health than illness. You are more blessed than the many who will not even survive this day. ""If you have never experienced the fear in battle, the loneliness of imprisonment, the agony of torture, or the pangs of starvation ... You are ahead of 700 million people in the world.""If you can attend a church without the fear of harassment, arrest, torture or death you are envied by, and more blessed than, three billion people in the world.""If you can hold your head up and smile, you are not the norm, you're unique to all those in doubt and despair..... .."OK, what now? How can I start?If you can read this message, you just received a double blessing in that someone was thinking of you as very special and you are more blessed than over two billion people in the world who cannot read at all.Have a good day, count your blessings, and if you care to, pass this along to remind everyone else how blessed we all are

ATTN.: Acknowledge Dept.

"Thank you Lord, for giving me the ability to share this message and for giving me so many wonderful people with whom to share it. "If you have read this far, and are thankful for all that you have been blessed with, how can you not send it on? I thank God for everything, especially all my family and friends!
"And all things, whatsoever ye shall ask in prayer, believing, ye shall receive." Matthew 21

Thank you...

We would like to thank you for condoling with us...

thank you for the masses offerred, the flowers, the money, the food you gave,

the comforting words and the text messages, the emails thru the different internet sites (facebook, multiply, yahoo etc.)

for coming to the wake and funeral...

for these we are very grateful.. you helped us so much ease the pain and sorrow we felt...

thank you so much...God Bless us all!

Huli ka Nathan!

sunday visit

last coffee...

This was taken before mama's flight to new jersey...papa mixed coffee for mama...we never knew this was his last coffee with mama...miss you papa!

Papa...

Papa...i will miss you so much.... we all thought you would recover... even the doctors they thought you were improving...they cannot pin down any diagnosis because all the laboratory works were not coinciding properly... and the nurses...they said you have selective responses...you respond and follow instructions only from the one you know...papa we love you so much...i hope you felt it till the end...and during the time that you were bleeding so hard i felt that you embraced me and you told me that you are leaving but still i cannot let you go...so you prepared us for a day...you were pinching us and gripping our hands so hard that we would all smile because you were so strong...and everytime i talk to you there were tears in your eyes...as if telling me that you are leaving soon...i was so afraid that i dismissed those thoughts, i even saw tita digna and tita lynne at the hospital door so many times...and i told them not now...but i felt they were waiting for you....papa i even felt bad at them because i knew that they were fetching you....it's so hard... because you really bonded with me on your last weeks or month here...you would go down at 4:30 sit in front of the laundry and read a book... and if i see you i would pull a chair and sit beside you...you would tell me stories of your past, talk about our lost properties, and i would tell you papa dont be bitter about it you have us your children...we may not have everything but we are a happy family, and you would say that we should had our own house units if only... but i would always say that we can work and someday buy our own house...then you would change the topic and talk about drinking that you are already old and would like to enjoy...but i would always say no to drinking because of your health...and when you cant persuade me, you would again make kwento about anything... then when it's 6:30 you would go up and watch the news... papa i will cherish those moments, now i realize that i am so lucky because you spent 2 hours a day with me for maybe more than a month and i would always decline my patients because i need to make bantay, because if im not beside you, you are going to buy gin.... and if i have a persistent patient i would tell my kids or whoever is available to stay with you... now i realized that you were making me ready for the day that you would leave... papa you were the only one who knows when im down and not feeling well... you would ask if im ok...but of course i would always say that im ok... and thank you for teaching me so many things...i would enumerate them so that my kids would know it...folding our clothes and dapat pantay pantay... and fixing our cabinets, shining our shoes should always be well polished, every all souls day we should light a candle at the patio, you also taught me how to budget at an early age like grade 5...you would give me money and tell me how many people would eat with us , you thought us how to make tipid and always think of others before buying anything, you taught us how to have party themes...like when i was 6 my party theme was hello kitty, you did all the invitations and you made hello kitty designs for my party, you taught me how to fill up our pantry...na dapat may canned goods and milk (for the kids) na extra para ready kung magkaka gulo, like coup d'etat...hehehhe...sef never believed this..you thought me how to change the fuse and bulbs...you taught me how to make friends with everybody...that we should not look at people by their financial status but rather their attitude towards life... how they cope with everyday living...many people are not like this papa and i am happy because you taught us this virtue, and i never heard you complain about all our kamag anaks who lived with us in earnshaw...not a single complain, you accepted them with open arms...you also opened our eyes in a different political view, you also brought us to rallies and we also experienced tear gas, you also taught us how to make confetties and everytime they passed by earnshaw either we threw confetties or we served water...during the parangal did i realize that some of the things i remembered where not a dream...like when i was maybe a year or two there was someone with me that would tell me to close my eyes and not to open until she says so...she would bring me inside the bodega of course i was just a kid so i would peek... and she would feed around 4 or 5 people who are sick and wounded and would tell me not to say a word to anyone...i also remebered seeing machine guns beside them underneath the newspapers...papa i dont know why i didnt ask you about this.... i also remember that you have plenty of money and would just wrap it with news paper then just give it to somebody whom i never knew....just now did i realize how big is your heart...you never pampered us with material things...you and mama would always teach us how to save and would just buy things like bags, shoes and uniforms kung masikip na or sira na or maikli na ang skirt...never did we buy excess things...and another one is you never encouraged us to watch telenovelas...you would say na walang kwenta ang drama...magbasa na lang kayo... so i loved reading books...that when i was pregnant with bianca sef would keep my books because i could forget about everything just to finish reading...hay papa! and papa thank you for spoiling my kids...you really made them happy, i will always tell them stories about you, take care of yourself papa...i know you are in a safe place free from sickness and pain.

Thank you for everthing...i love you pa!

Get Well Soon Lolo!

Get well Lolo,

Have a rest, Drink your medicines, relax and be strong,

We Love you Lolo!

Papa look at the camera, sa amin sumusunod sa instructions...pag sa nurse na lalaki ayaw sumunod...

Lolo woke up and was happy to see his apos

Papa Get well soon!

We love you!

Athena kissing loly

We love you mama!